I remember this very well. I used to dread the holiday season and yet another year alone, wondering whether my special someone was ever going to come along to celebrate with. I would try to put on my smiling, happy face but underneath the ache and pain was always there.
At this time of year it’s the loneliness can feel crushing and the old limiting beliefs such as “Everyone gets love except me,” or “I’m not good enough” can really set in.
Here are 5 things you can do to not only survive the holiday, but enjoy them too…and keep your magnetism switched on to make you irresistible!
1. Be around uplifting, supportive people
This time of year can be full of family gatherings. While this can be wonderful it can also be a challenge as family members are the best at pushing our buttons!
Try to limit how much time you spend with people who don’t support you. Be around as many uplifting and nurturing people as you can. Make a list of all the supportive people in your life and start reaching out to them now.
The good news is that you get to have whatever Christmas you would like – you can choose! So start planning your time and focusing your attention on making it uniquely yours with doing things you enjoy and being with people you love.
2. Love yourself up
At this time of year the loneliness can feel crushing and old negative beliefs such as; “Everyone gets love except me,” or “I’m not good enough” can really set in.
But these old negative beliefs actually run your love life. If you are walking around thinking you’re not good enough or not lovable then you will probably meet men don’t think you are either.
It’s time to love your self. Tell yourself everything you would like a man to tell you – that you’re beautiful, lovable and totally deserve to be loved.
Give yourself quiet time over the holidays – time to enjoy bubble baths, walks in nature or doing things you love. Love yourself to overflowing and watch as people just want to be around you, including a man who can’t resist you!
3. Be grateful
Gratitude expands what you already have and opens up a space for more good things to come to you!
Each day over the holidays, make a list before you go to bed of what you were grateful for that day.
You can always find something to be grateful for so start with things like “good food,” “a warm bed” or “freedom” if need be.
Make a list of the soul mates you already have. Soul mates are not just romantic partners. They are special people you have in your life and people you feel particularly connected to.
Be grateful for these special people and find a way to let them know through a kind word, a card or a gift.
As you appreciate the soulmates in your life right now, you are opening up more space for your true love to arrive.
4. Give and Receive
There is nothing like giving to others and those less fortunate to provide a new perspective.
Seeing the smile on someone’s face when you have given them something from your heart is incredibly fulfilling.
This is the time to give to those special people in your life. I’m also a great believer in spontaneous giving just because! No special reason or explanation needed.
There are also plenty of great causes to donate your time to at this time of year.
Who do you feel particularly called to help?
Whether you donate your time, energy or money, find a cause that feels good to you.
It’s also important that you stay open to receiving. Be in the practice of gracefully receiving what others give to you. Allow yourself to receive like a queen and know that you are so worth it and so deserving of love.
5. Commit to attracting the love of your life in 2015!
If you are serious about having a wonderful partner and a fulfilling relationship, it’s time to invest in yourself and this part of your life.
You can go for years dreaming, wishing, hoping and waiting for love. The real change occurs when you get serious about it and set about making a real commitment to transforming your love life forever.
You do this by doing the inner work and focusing on the inner you. When you concentrate on becoming the most delicious version of yourself you can be, free from old negative beliefs and confident in your own worth, you give out an energy that says “I love myself and I love my life.” This will draw people to you, including your ideal partner and the love of your life.
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I look forward to speaking with you.
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