November 21, 2013
Let's talk about the prospect of being vulnerable. For years I thought it was a mortal sin to be vulnerable. I went around saying that people who were vulnerable were weak. The truth was that I was terrified of being vulnerable. And I had good reason to be. When I was a child it wasn't safe to be vulnerable.
Now that we know what radiance is, how do we become more radiant? We take the risk to stop being invisible. It’s starting to look at what are my beliefs about myself being beautiful and radiant? Have the courage to stop hiding.
When we make the commitment to do what it takes for love, we become totally self-responsible for our own lives.
This means that we give up blaming men or women. We give up blaming ourselves. We give up blaming our parents or our upbringing and we give up blaming God. Instead, we decide that from hereon in, we are going to be responsible for what we create in our lives and we start to look at our part in our past experiences.
When we are committed to drawing love towards us, we give up hoping, wishing and dreaming of love and instead we intentionally start to cause and create it in our lives.
Getting to Your “I’m Gonna Do Whatever It Takes” Moment
I clearly remember coming to this moment a few year ago. I was in England. I had been experiencing the same old pattern in love over and over again, that of being abandoned and rejected and always attracting unavailable, uncommitted men who didn’t see me. This had become very disappointing, disillusioning and confusing. I thought I was a good person doing good things in the world. I thought I was reasonably attractive. Other parts of my life seemed to be going well and I had been working on myself for years, yet this area of my life seemed to be stuck. The pain of this had become too much.
We give up blaming ourselves. We give up blaming our parents or our upbringing and we give up blaming God. Instead, we decide that from hereon in, we are going to be responsible for what we create in our lives and we start to look at our part in our past experiences.