It wasn’t until I realized I wasn’t recognizing my value, that I was maintaining weak—or virtually nonexistent—standards and boundaries, and that I wasn’t clear on what I desired. (Even once I was clear, I wasn’t sure I could have it.) I had to learn that I could choose to live my life differently.
Finding “the one” and my “soulmate” were concepts that failed me repeatedly, driving me to stay in unhealthy patterns and codependent relationships. The natural pattern of rejection and chasing guys who didn’t want to be with me, nearly convinced me I was unlovable.
But I wouldn’t change my experiences: They helped teach me everything I know now.